Get the Word No You Can t Out of Your Vocabulary!
No. It is a two-letter word that can instantly send chills down the spine of the strongest " strong man - and woman " knocks the wind out of anyone& 39;s sailing. In the entertainment industry is a word you may hear a million times " No. " Even if you hear the word " " No one million and one times, never give up! I know that he has a lot of determination and motivation to get passed What little word, but you can do it! " " Not seem to have a million different emotions attached to it, depending on how " not " is interpreted. It also depends on the perception of the person when he or she hears the word. Sometimes you can stop in their tracks especially when they relate to his music, which is part of who you are.
No seem mean or be interpreted as:
1. They do not like what I have to say or sell 2. . They do not like me.
3. What& 39;s wrong with me?
4. What I would do differently than the other person who got the yes?
6. I should not be as talented or knowledgeable as the person who received the yes.
7. What I have not got that the person who received the " yes " do?
8. Will my talent not just measure up?
There are many more thoughts we can go in our minds when we are rejected for any reason. Too often, Customize the rejection as opposed to simply realizing that it is not really personal, it& 39;s just a business decision for all them.
We try to rationalize it and say " Just a word! It is not the first time I heard is and will not be the last time that I hear it in this business. " But what we feel inside is so different.
We feel total rejection and can feel completely demoralized. When the word " not " leaves the mouth of someone in the field Our work, it is as if we had rejected and this may bring back memories of our subconscious childhood.
The not Random House Dictionary defines as:
& quot ; not, adv., N, pl. 1. Word used to express dissent, denial, or refusal - n 2. Voto negative - adj. 3. None ".
As children " not tell us, do not touch it or you will get burned. " Although we heard our parents tell us that, we still want touch fire. After all, " what it really means to burn? And it& 39;s so pretty … I just want to touch it. When we do " Ouch!
Then our parents say " I said no, do not touch it! Now you see? " Our minds then " not equate the word " " ouch, you will get hurt! " That would assume the first meaning of the Random House Dictionary of " not ", which is dissent, means " difference of opinion. " Parents view was that the fire had injured. The son of the opinion that the fire was as beautiful as it could harm him? When we got older and go to school, in the playground can hear, " No, you can not play me. The word " " not " then invokes a feeling completely different, so our first experience with the word " not ". It now means rejection! So " not " leads to the second part of the Random House Dictionary & 39; s Meaning of the word, which is a negative vote " ".
Another child in the playground launched a " " negative vote, in our direction saying they do not want to play us. We were given an explanation as to why they do not want to play with us, we were only told " not " our minds and that equated to rejection.
And thus our lives continue this pace of association. The word " not " always seems to be associated with something bad and seems to stick in our minds much more often than we heard yes. Hurtful memories of the past longest.
So how we can change this situation? I can only speculate. Maybe we should go back to our childhood memories and re-program them so that the word " not " not have such a major impact. Or maybe you just have to start now and really believe in our minds, what our mouths speak to our family and friends, and that is … " " That is not only a word.
But I believe that we should have the third meaning of the Random House Dictionary and apply it in a slightly revised, personal way when we hear the word " not ".
For example, if I hear the word " not " Now, when it is directly linked to anything that has to do with my art, I say to myself: " " not have any & ; quot; flavor ". " " Not have any impact on my life " ". " " Not have any & 39; Ind cio on what they are talking about. Then " that phrase seems to have much less impact, and feels much less as a negative vote " " to being.
And with my staff when I say these things to me and relate them directly Beseda " not ", cease to be a rejection of me, but a rejection of the other person of the system of belief. After all, they are only individuals whose belief systems are different then mine. From now on, when someone says " " Not for me, the negative impact is gone, and & 39; no & 39; anymore I will leave it affects me. Jaci Rae - " The Rae of Hope TM " Copyright 2006
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